We are not called to judge others, but we are still called to be good examples to them, and share the love of Christ with them.
Don’t use “not judging” as a reason not to boldly and proudly live your Faith. Do use “not judging” however, to think the best of others, and not assume ulterior or malicious motives in their actions.
Love one another as I have loved you. – Jesus
Judging, living, & loving as a disciple of Christ can be extremely complicated. As disciples, we say we will not only follow Jesus, but we will follow His teachings. As humans, with fallen natures, it is difficult not to see “our brothers & sisters” seemingly not following Jesus’ teachings. What do we do? What do we say? Some of these “infractions” are quite obvious – we are not judging, but observing. For example, a friend has an abortion; a sibling gets a divorce; someone we know well enters into a homosexual relationship; a co-worker succumbs to infidelity…. The list goes on…
This is where disciples struggle. What do they do? Jesus has told us what to do. Love them. Love must always be first & foremost in our response. Jesus tells us that quite clearly throughout Scripture. He also tells us not to judge, as noted above. We do not know everything going on other people’s lives. We don’t know what they have suffered: either in their childhood, or even now behind closed doors.
So, as disciples armed with the truth, we feel compelled to confront them with the Truth. The problem is – we often, unwittingly, pound them over the head with it, & thus turn them completely off. As a popular saying goes: People don’t care what you say, until they know that you care.
We have to love people in their need – seek to help & if possible work on healing their hurts (even if all we can do is pray for their healing) before we can lead them on. Love & prayer is our most powerful tool. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you in your discipleship. Ask where people need healing – show them kindness & love – this will build the bridge that leads to the Truth! Come Holy Spirit!